What would happen if your every move was watched ,every word was judged and every action was to incurr some meaning .I mean that would feel like celebrity and also that would feel like irritating and you would definitely wouldn’t want to sit with people who knew are reading your everyday messages chats and typically trying to know your thoughts all the time. Its not friendship ,its just some miserable people trying to put you down .Take a sign of relief that you are hated .Otherwise ,how would you know more about yourself .I think its very healthy to have those people in your life because if everyone loves you ,you couldn’t find the difference between the people in your life
I have learnt that people want to know everything about you so that gives them an edge over you .If you are too good in your dealings than it would be a question why so and if your are too bad that’s also a question as to why .
“Its not possible to live without failing at something ,unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all-in which case ,you fail by default”.- J.K.Rowling.
Use that exposure to improve your life .Something that will grow from all you are going through and that will be you. Its like the practical working knowledge that you are getting to update your everyday life .The attitude of “that’s just how I am ,take it or leave it” is still a sign of immaturity .As an adult,its your responsibility to figure out which of your traits are toxic and to eventually learn how to fix them.At some point ,we all gotta start making ourselves better persons .If you truly believe you don’t have to change anything about yourself,even at the very least the worst in you ,and that people will just have to deal with it ,then sorry ,you’re still a child .
But the world doesn’t operate in this way .When people see you are good ,they see an opportunity to put you down. I have come to a place in my life where Fake people don’t surprise me anymore ,loyal people do.Once your mind had been stretched by new experiences ,it can never go back to its old dimensions so definitely you will not be the same person ever again once you were .So you have to choose ,the happiness .Life isn’t about pleasing everybody. If you cannot find a good companion to walk with .walk alone .like an elephant roaming in jungle.It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.
Real is rare afterall .Sometimes it’s more effective to make a STOP-DOING list ,instead of TO-DO List.Learn what you shouldn’t do instead to getting to know the right thing to do .If you stop doing the wrong things ,you will clear the clutter and make space for new things in your life and then you will create a life that you wanted for yourself not what others wanted for you.