First reaction when someone torts against you is to revert back with a reaction. Whataboutism is a variant of the tu quoque logical fallacy that attempts to discredit the criticism raised by one party by distracting the conversation to other topic with the starting question like ” what about …blah blah issues rising up ??..
Some people follow the first technique and others follow the second technique .But both of them continue to suffer because that’s the emotional reaction that you are giving .You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you.True power is sitting back and observing everything with logic.True power is restraint .If words control you that means everyone else can control you.Breathe and allow things to pass.Just go out and have an experience sometime .It important to gain perspective in life .I tried that myself and found that gave me altogether a different way of looking at a problem.I could do that because its easy to experiment with yourself .Jumping off the cliff is easier .People suicide because they are doing it to themselves .But since suicide is that easy wouldn’t taking the leap of faith in your self should be easy.After all what are you risking ,atleast not your life .It could be a win win situation for your self .If you fail nobody knew you trusted you trusted yourself ,so saved from all the shame and if you win you win.Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong .When you learn to laugh at your own mistakes ,you must know you are going in the correct direction.Apparently I had been living under what is called stress .For me it was the gap between expectation and reality .And I found the gap was increasing everyday .I had to do something to fill the void that was increasing in my life. So like everyone positive around me I was also obsessing with the idea of becoming something and that’s good because more we focus on ourselves the better we become and the better we become the better world we start living in.
But while fighting with yourself you become a completely different person. .Its kind of a life you start living !!!.